Came across an article, quite meaningful & sets me thinking...I believe most of us are guilty of it... Especially now that we are all working...
1. Have you ever told your colleagues "
I'm busy", when they were happily telling you about what they did the other day?
2. Have you ever gave your parents a frustrated look and says "
I'm Busy!" when they were talking to you, asking you to sit with them for dinner?
3. Have you ever told your best frd "
I'm Busy" when they tried to ask you out for a dinner?
4. Have you ever think "
I'm busy, will reply/ans later" when your significant other msg you or call you?
The words "I'm busy" are the rudest words in English dictionary, not taking into consideration vulgarities. These words imply that you are
capable of utilising your time,
but the time is reserved for what you perceived as more important than the person you are speaking to....
Now, sit down & reconsider. Is working through the emails more important than your mum telling you how she almost fell & hurt herself? Is watching your favourite 9pm TV show more important than lending your listening ear to a close frd who just broke up? Is playing game/reading magazine more important than replying a short SMS from your significant other??
Some of the answers might be yes, but, all it takes is 2-3minutes to put down what you are doing & listen.. Is that really a long time? are you really so busy that you cant stop for 2-3 minutes? Or is your 2-3 minutes worth $1000?
Just watched Xiao Hai Bu Ben 2 (I not stupid 2), the kid saved up a few hundred bucks just to buy 2hrs of his dad time, cos his dad always says "i'm busy, my time is worth few hundred bucks" whenever he needs him...Do you have to go thru this same situation to make yourself realise what you've been doing isn't exactly right?
I'll be the first to admit that i'm guilty of pt 2 until i'm in university. Whenever my mum ask me to help her reach for the top shelf to get something, I'll yell "I'm busy!", but what i am doing is just lying down watching TV... When my mum came back from work & ask me to join her for dinner, I'll say "I'm busy! I'll eat later!" while playing game....
At that moment, i just tot that's the most exciting part of the show, helping my mum can wait, or she can grab a chair & do it herself. But what if she falls from the chair? Her brittle bones are certainly not going to withstand the impact of the fall. All it takes is just 30 secs of my time.....
Back from a hard day of work, all she wants is just my company, to have dinner with her...after all the hardwork of raising me up, putting me to university, all she gets is "I'm Busy!!" in return for her 'investments'....
I'm not asking everyone to run home, hug your mum, cry & apologise, nor start accepting every appointments your frd invites you, accept every task given or listen to all conversations even though it's n0t meant for you.
Whenever anyone come to you for something, if you can stop & think twice before using the favourite words "I'm Busy!", this article would have achieved it's purpose. It's never too late to realise your mistakes.. You have the remaining 60 years to change it.
On a similar note, read a post from my frd's blog, which can be quite true. She mentioned, many girlfrds are complaining their men have a tendency not to reply SMSes, or reply hours & hours later...Men would think it's not even an issue, 'at least i replied, though it's hours late' But in fact, we got everything to worry for...if your gf can really take you not replying her text messages or not return her missed calls, then maybe she doesnt love you enff? or you don have a place in her heart.
When you reply to her SMS hours & hours later, she would have probably forgotten wat she SMS ya abt. Her analogy--> "We (gals) don’t mind other men taking ages to reply to the message, but we can’t take it that
you reply us hours and hours later. remember that to us, you mean a lot and nothing pleases us more than to have you think about us in the middle of the day, because most likely we’ll be thinking about you too. you might be surprised that a mere pleasantry can work very well and to your advantage also"
Can any gal verify this?? If it's true... all the guys who are reading this better start worrying. Lol
Of cos, this 'theory' might apply to guys as well! So gals, you better watch out. =P
